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Camera Pick-Up

This is different from the more advanced camera technique, in that it’s about meeting a girl using your digital camera.

There are a couple variations, and they can work just about anywhere – although bars and scenic spots are best.

The first way, you offer to take a picture of a group of ladies to take a shot of some ladies setting up for a photo and trying to figure out who to ask.  You know the situation.  So now you’ve got confidence and a sparkle of gallantry going for you.

Now you want to have some playful conversation – like the previous technique, you set them up a bit, move them around, perhaps slightly hands-on, but not too much, and only in a natural I-do-this-with-everyone way.  After you take the first shot, make a joke about the faces they make, have them do it again.  Get them laughing and enjoying themselves – this works especially well in a tourist spot with ladies just out having a good time, no schedule.

Learn a little bit about what they’re doing, find out their next plan.  If they don’t have one, invite them along to join you.  If they’ve got an idea, nothing works better than “Yeah, that’s a nice spot… but I know a better one which isn’t in the guide books.  I’m actually heading that way soon, if you want me to show you the way.”

Or, you can take it a whole different direction, and ask THEM to guide YOU.  If you’ve made them laugh enough during the photo shoot, they’ll likely invite you along.  If not, say “I know (or heard about) this great place to grab a coffee and relax.  I’m going there at 4 – why don’t I meet you there?  Lots of good restaurants and bars for later in the evening in the area too.”  Odds are they’ll be more than happy to join you.

Second technique, same as the first, but get one of the ladies to snap your picture – then offer to do the same for them, get playful conversation going from the start.

REMEMBER, EVERYTHING hinges on having a lady enjoy her time with you.  These techniques, they’re just openers to get the ice broken – your success is entirely about your banter and playful aura - creating attraction.  These are great ways to open a lady or group, but you’ve got to know what you’re going to do with them BEFORE you start to have a chance to bring it further.

Ok, the third and most advanced version is to ask a girl to take a photo WITH you.  This gives you an excuse to give her a squeeze, get a kiss on the cheek (girls love this, although they usually resist at first), strike a funny playful pose – and of course come up with an excuse why the first one isn’t any good and you’ve got to do it again.

NOTE: Don’t overdo the retakes – once, maybe twice, they’re fun.  More than that, and you seem like a clingy guy who can’t think of a better way to hold her attention.

One More Question Pick-Up

This is something you use for a woman who’s got a huge wall that she just refuses to lower.  Every time she brushes you off, say “Ok, I’ll leave you alone, but real quickly let me just ask one more question…” and make it as funny, fun, and playful as you can.

The trick here is to slowly melt away her guard.  If you pick your targets carefully, you should see her gradually warming to you   Her protests should get more feeble, and at the end she might say something like “You’re fun, but I’m REALLY running late now and I’ve GOT to go.”

No problem.  Set up a rendezvous and she’ll be all yours.

Again, be careful with this technique.  If you’re using it and the girl is getting more and more frustrated and curt, cut your losses and run.  Pull this with the wrong lady – and the wrong lady might just mean someone having a shitty day – and all you’ll do is piss her off and provoke some nastiness out of her, as she’ll believe it’s the only way to get rid of you.  Choose wisely friends, because this is a POWERFUL technique – there are only two ways to get out of it, which is to give in or to fight, so don’t use it all the time, and don’t use it to create a fight.

Palm-Reading Pick-Up

You probably already know enough about this one you don’t need much more tutoring, but one key to remember:

After you know a few basics, you can casually drop your skills into a conversation and have the girls asking YOU to read them.  Study for awhile, hold for awhile, just like the training says.  Then say “Hmm… I see something interesting about you here.”
She’ll immediately ask “What?”

“I don’t know if I should tell you…”

“What is it?  WHAT?!!”

Now answer with something easy and generic, and she’ll start filling in the gaps.  Agree, and talk more about what you see in relation to what she’s telling you.  This is exactly what the pros do, and she’ll believe she’s got a spiritual guru holding her hand.  Not a bad start, eh?

Bookstore Pick-Up

This is easy – and fun, because you often get an intelligent class of woman in bookstores.

Hang out in the sections women are often in – this includes new age, sex, romance, art…

Notice what the girl is reading – and say “(Book title).  I was interested in that book – is it any good?”

She might ask why you’re interested in the book, and you can say “Well, I’m interested in that subject area.”  Guess what – so’s she!  Now you’ve got a topic to talk about at length, and from there you can easily shift to the bookstore coffee shop or a nearby one.  Works like a charm.

Derek Vitalio

Now we continue our look at particular strategies for particular girls and places.

Church Girl Pick-Up

There’s this mistaken belief that church girls are frigid and not worth shooting for.  Uh… wrong.

Now, they DO tend to be looking for longer more serious relationships, so if you’re not prepared to enter into that sort of thing, then you’d best avoid them unless you’re comfortable being a bastard.

The thing is, getting in good with church girls is actually pretty easy.  It’s similar to political girls: start a conversation and let her preach to you.  Let her take you under her wing.  The more devious guys will sometimes fake a “conversion” but if that leaves you with a bad taste there’s no need for it.

All you need is to show her attraction and sincere interest, let her try and convince you of the way, and when there’s a break in the action, put your knowledge to work.

One thing: go gently, and let her flower.  Church girls think about sex as much as anyone else, if not more (ah, forbidden fruit).  You can take the topic that direction slowly and innocently – don’t press hard, but when she’s blushing and smiling and turning her eyes to the ground, you’ll know she’s excited and flushed and yearning for that forbidden fruit.  Good place to be.

Psychic Intuition Pick-Up

This is a fun, easy, pick-up.  Go up to a girl and say, in a very serious way, “I have a psychic intuition about you.”  She’ll probably respond “What?” – to which you answer something comedically generic.  Like “You… like chocolate.”  Or “You… take… showers!”

She’ll laugh, and then you’re in.  From there, you can just use your skills and run with it.  And, if she somehow doesn’t fit your generic statement, that’s fine too… you can get her laughing just as easily with “You don’t shower?  Well, that explains the odor in this part of the city then.”  Fun any way it goes.

College Party Pick-Up

This doesn’t work when you’re 40, but even after you’ve graduated you have a few years to take advantage of the plethora of hot young women that college affords.

When I first graduated, instead of renting my own place – both to save money and to enjoy the scene – I moved in to a student co-op.  Made plenty of friends, and found out about all the parties.

When I’d go, lots of conversations would quickly go to “What’s your major?”

Now, if you just say “Oh, I was an English major, but I graduated two years ago.” well, you’ll sound like a loser.

But if you say “I already graduated, but I’m here now studying how to have good communication and great sex.”  That always got the conversation headed in the right direction – and the “loser stuck in the past” archetype is replaced by the “sophisticated lover who can show me new things and new feelings.”  Very nice.

Shoe Store Pick-Up

This is a simple one – and one you can take two ways.

Go to a shoe store – make sure the clerk is an attractive lady – and ask HER opinion about men’s shoes.  Ask her what would look good on YOU.

Now, the two directions this can go – either you value her opinion and she’ll feel and appreciate that – or you go the other way, and mock her.  “Yeah, of course you’d say THAT” and then you go with a completely different pair.

Remember, the second option has to be done playfully, or you’ll just come off like a dick.  But if you do it right, it should lead to plenty of fun conversation and future meetings. (“When do you get off work?” always is usable after you’ve established good communication and attraction.)

Airplane Pick-Up

This is great, because everything is set up for you.  It’s a little harder in the age of the ipod and in-flight entertainment, but few people spend an entire trip plugged in to electronics.

The beauty is, if you’ve got a beautiful woman sitting next to you, odds are she’s bored out of her skull – and you’re the only option around.  Find something to comment about – like a nice tan – and ask a question.  Let the conversation progress naturally from there.

A corollary option is the stewardess.  With them, asking for recommendations is a great in – and asking them about how they got into the business, where they’ve been, what kind of time they spend in their stops and what they do with that time.

Odds are very good she’ll know at least one or two nice spots – and if you play your cards right, she just might show you around.

Conversely, if you’re headed home, you can make the same offer to her.  You’ve got to be quite slick about this – stewardesses get hit on every flight – but if you’ve got genuine interest in what they’re saying, you can have some fun every two months when she comes to town.

Dance Pick-Up

Sometimes, you’re in a place where you can’t talk.  No problem.

When on the dance floor, “accidentally” brush up against a girl.  Notice her.  Start dancing with her – hold her hands, work your fingers up her arms, down her sides to her waist, and back up again.

She should get VERY turned on by this.

Bring her closer.  Put your arm around her waist – if it’s going well, hold her ass.

Lean in close to her ear and say something like “So, are you a good kisser?”

If she reacts in any way other than utter horror, go in for that kiss.  You can go from contact to kiss with, even, no words.  Few things feel better than that.

Derek Vitalio

Now we continue our look at particular strategies for particular girls and places.

Church Girl Pick-Up

There’s this mistaken belief that church girls are frigid and not worth shooting for.  Uh… wrong.

Now, they DO tend to be looking for longer more serious relationships, so if you’re not prepared to enter into that sort of thing, then you’d best avoid them unless you’re comfortable being a bastard.

The thing is, getting in good with church girls is actually pretty easy.  It’s similar to political girls: start a conversation and let her preach to you.  Let her take you under her wing.  The more devious guys will sometimes fake a “conversion” but if that leaves you with a bad taste there’s no need for it.

All you need is to show her attraction and sincere interest, let her try and convince you of the way, and when there’s a break in the action, put your knowledge to work.

One thing: go gently, and let her flower.  Church girls think about sex as much as anyone else, if not more (ah, forbidden fruit).  You can take the topic that direction slowly and innocently – don’t press hard, but when she’s blushing and smiling and turning her eyes to the ground, you’ll know she’s excited and flushed and yearning for that forbidden fruit.  Good place to be.

Psychic Intuition Pick-Up

This is a fun, easy, pick-up.  Go up to a girl and say, in a very serious way, “I have a psychic intuition about you.”  She’ll probably respond “What?” – to which you answer something comedically generic.  Like “You… like chocolate.”  Or “You… take… showers!”

She’ll laugh, and then you’re in.  From there, you can just use your skills and run with it.  And, if she somehow doesn’t fit your generic statement, that’s fine too… you can get her laughing just as easily with “You don’t shower?  Well, that explains the odor in this part of the city then.”  Fun any way it goes.

College Party Pick-Up

This doesn’t work when you’re 40, but even after you’ve graduated you have a few years to take advantage of the plethora of hot young women that college affords.

When I first graduated, instead of renting my own place – both to save money and to enjoy the scene – I moved in to a student co-op.  Made plenty of friends, and found out about all the parties.

When I’d go, lots of conversations would quickly go to “What’s your major?”

Now, if you just say “Oh, I was an English major, but I graduated two years ago.” well, you’ll sound like a loser.

But if you say “I already graduated, but I’m here now studying how to have good communication and great sex.”  That always got the conversation headed in the right direction – and the “loser stuck in the past” archetype is replaced by the “sophisticated lover who can show me new things and new feelings.”  Very nice.

Shoe Store Pick-Up

This is a simple one – and one you can take two ways.

Go to a shoe store – make sure the clerk is an attractive lady – and ask HER opinion about men’s shoes.  Ask her what would look good on YOU.

Now, the two directions this can go – either you value her opinion and she’ll feel and appreciate that – or you go the other way, and mock her.  “Yeah, of course you’d say THAT” and then you go with a completely different pair.

Remember, the second option has to be done playfully, or you’ll just come off like a dick.  But if you do it right, it should lead to plenty of fun conversation and future meetings. (“When do you get off work?” always is usable after you’ve established good communication and attraction.)

Airplane Pick-Up

This is great, because everything is set up for you.  It’s a little harder in the age of the ipod and in-flight entertainment, but few people spend an entire trip plugged in to electronics.

The beauty is, if you’ve got a beautiful woman sitting next to you, odds are she’s bored out of her skull – and you’re the only option around.  Find something to comment about – like a nice tan – and ask a question.  Let the conversation progress naturally from there.

A corollary option is the stewardess.  With them, asking for recommendations is a great in – and asking them about how they got into the business, where they’ve been, what kind of time they spend in their stops and what they do with that time.

Odds are very good she’ll know at least one or two nice spots – and if you play your cards right, she just might show you around.

Conversely, if you’re headed home, you can make the same offer to her.  You’ve got to be quite slick about this – stewardesses get hit on every flight – but if you’ve got genuine interest in what they’re saying, you can have some fun every two months when she comes to town.

Dance Pick-Up

Sometimes, you’re in a place where you can’t talk.  No problem.

When on the dance floor, “accidentally” brush up against a girl.  Notice her.  Start dancing with her – hold her hands, work your fingers up her arms, down her sides to her waist, and back up again.

She should get VERY turned on by this.

Bring her closer.  Put your arm around her waist – if it’s going well, hold her ass.

Lean in close to her ear and say something like “So, are you a good kisser?”

If she reacts in any way other than utter horror, go in for that kiss.  You can go from contact to kiss with, even, no words.  Few things feel better than that.

Derek Vitalio

Has this ever happened to you...

You're sitting into a club, and see a hot dancer you really like.

You make eye contact. She smiles. She walks over to you and says:

"Would you like a dance?"

And here's the moment of truth.

You know that if you get a dance with her, you're going to be lumped into the "customer category," and will have no chance of seeing her outside the club.

So you say "No." And what happens?

She pegs you as some loser with no money and moves on.

Owch.

So what's a guy to do?

Well, the first thing you need to realize is that when a dancer approaches you and asks if you want a dance, she's going through a pre-scripted sales pitch.

If you say "Yes," she's made a sale.

If you say "No," she moves on to look for someone who'll buy what she's offering.

So it seems like you're damned if you do, and you're damned if you don't.

But fear not. There IS a way to turn this situation to your advantage.

You can do this by not falling into her sales routine!

And you do that by simply not answering her question.

The real key to distinguishing yourself from loser customers is to get the girl talking to you in a way that does not denote you're going to offer her money for an erotic dance.

So the best thing you can do is change the subject and start talking about what you want to talk about, instead of what SHE wants to talk about.

Get it?

For instance, if a girl walks up to me and asks me if I want a dance, I might say something like:

"Oh my God, you really scared me for a second there."

When she asks why, I'll tell her about how she looks almost exactly like a dancer I used to date. And then I'll start talking about some of the crazy times I used to have with her and how I had to break it off for health reasons.

Now, the story is totally made up, but it does a few things for me...

First off, it gets her out of her "sales mode."

It engages her because she will wonder why she scared me.

It lets her know I'm an "insider" because I dated a dancer before.

And finally, I get to start talking about things I do outside the club.

From there I'll ask her to sit down and chat for a bit. What I'll usually do then is offer to buy her a drink to keep her around for a bit.

This will give me time to further engage her.

If she keeps pushing for a dance, I'll say that I'm not a customer and I'm just here to unwind for a bit before I head home.

If you can't get her to agree to meet you outside the club at this point, don't sweat it. After all, she's got bills to pay.

But if you display your personality and offer her an escape from work briefly, then you have a good chance of meeting up with her later.

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Don't wait. There's a sexy girl out there right now just WAITING for you.

Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews

I got a secret I want to share with you...

It's a secret that only insiders in the secret world of strippers really know.

Ready for it?

Here it is...

STRIPPERS ARE EXTREMELY SEXUAL WOMEN!

Huh? That's my big secret?

You bet'cha.

See, there's a real difference between the way Strippers are perceived and how they really are.

When you strut into a strip club and you see all these dead sexy, hard-bodied ladies walking around with hardly anything on, you're bound to think these women are in touch with their sexuality.

But then they start hustling you for dances, and you begin to think it's all about the money for them.

These sex pots suddenly became hustlers.

But guess what? For the most part, your first instinct is correct! These dancers are HIGHLY sexual women.

They have to be. Otherwise, they couldn't do their jobs.

I know a lot of girls who are pretty normal chicks in the real world. But then once they get in the club, and they're surrounded by sexy women all dancing around half naked, and they themselves have to be sexy, something clicks inside them.

The fact is: Some dancers DO get turned on by their jobs!

And when this hyper-reality becomes a regular part of their life, they begin to become more attuned with their sexuality.

So what does this mean for you?

Simple: It means you have a chance to bed some of these women!

See, there's this idea us men have that we have to be really good looking to get a stripper.

But the fact of the matter is: That's just not true.

In fact, you have a BETTER shot of scoring with an exotic dancer if you're somewhat odd looking or off-beat!

Because Strippers are constantly inundated with sexuality, their scope of what attracts them is widened.

I knew this one super-sexy red headed dancer who could put any Playboy model to shame. And one night, she went home with a greasy, 300 lbs guy with the biggest nose you've ever seen!

This is a guy you'd NEVER think could bang a hot-ass girl like her. But he DID!

And when I asked her why she went home with him, she said she thought his big nose was hot!!!

(Don't ask me. I gave up trying to figure out what makes these women tick years ago.)

But in a way, that illustrates my point.

If you really get to know strippers well, you'll often find that a lot of the guys they date aren't very good looking dudes.

Some of them are punk rockers who never shower. Some are effeminate goth guys. Some are born losers. And most of them are just plain ugly dudes.

That doesn't mean they don't go for really attractive men. It just means that most dancers don't place as much importance on a man's looks as a man might place on theirs.

This is GOOD NEWS.

It means you don't have to be a male model to score with strippers!

But it'll take more than just how you look.

If you really want to have the adventure of a lifetime and date some super-sexy exotic dancers, you simply have to check out my book Stripper Secrets.

In it, I reveal all I've learned through my years in the Strip Club Industry.

In fact, what I reveal is so shocking, that I've become THE MOST HATED MAN IN THE BUSINESS!

But I get a lot of guys laid. =)

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Don't wait. There's a sexy girl out there just WAITING for you.

Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews

You want to hear something funny? Most guys have NO IDEA when a woman is into them.

Seriously. Unless she walks up to them, tears her clothes off, and screams "Take me now!" most men are completely oblivious to when a woman is sending out those "attraction signals."

Case in point...

QUESTION FROM A READER

Hi Joe,

I am enjoying your newsletters. I have a question for you.

I am 55 years old. I notice that when I am standing talking to somebody, no matter where I am at or who I am talking to, I always seem to catch some woman checking out my crotch.

Sometimes I will catch her doing this 3 or 4 times if I am there talking long enough.

Sometimes it is a woman that I know and sometimes they are complete strangers.

I have had a couple of times I have caught a women doing this, so I turned just so I could watch her out of the corner of my eye and she must have spent a minute or 2 checking out my crotch!

My question is: Is there a sure fire way to take it farther?

Some of them I would definitely like to make it with. What would you say when you catch a women doing that to you and you liked her looks?

I always get the quick "they look at my face then run their eyes down my body." I just smile at them until they look away.

If they smile back I say "Hi" to them, if they say hi back I ask them how they are doing. If I know them I might tease them or depending on what the circumstance is.

Please let me know your thoughts.

Steve

MY RESPONSE:

Okay Steve, there are only three logical explanations to this...

1. Your fly is always unzipped.


2. You consistently wear neon-colored pants with flashing arrows pointed at your pelvic region.


3. You are noticing massive attraction signals and NOT ACTING on them.

(My guess is, it's number 3!)

See, I can always tell when a girl is checking me out, and here's how...

PAY ATTENTION TO HER EYES.

His she looks at your face, then down to your crotch, then back up to your face, that's what I like to call:

MAJOR ATTRACTION SIGNAL!

If you think about it, that's what us guys do with women we like too. We'll run our eyes over their body to get an idea of whether we like the "full package."

Women are the same way, especially if you have the advantage of being good looking or physically attractive in some way.

When you see this "up and down" scan happen, you should know INSTANTLY that she's into you!

And if she can't take her eyes off your crotch, guess what? That's almost a SURE THING! (unless you suffer from points 1 or 2 above, then it's just casual interest =)

So here's what you do when you notice them...

YOU OPEN THEM!

That's right, just use one of my patented, tried and true openers to get her into a conversation.

Then, start flirting with her!

You already know she's interested, so express some interest in her. Once she catches on, she'll know its okay to take things further!

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Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews